Day 81
Went to see the doc today.  He gave me more info today than I had before so I know more what to expect.
When I told him I couldn't ABD until last week he said "that's good because you weren't supposed to until 3 months.  He said the cane would become less and less once I got the ABD strong.  He showed me a way to do it that I was unfamiliar with.  One way I see a lot of therapists including myself doing it activates the ITB which we see all the time getting irritated after a posterior approach.  We agreed that O/P PT would be a good thing now.
Approaching "normal" wouldn't happen for about another 3 months so I have some sort of target and expectation now.
I really think he was happy that this might just work for me and I am ecstatic not to have the same pain I had for 2 1/2 years after the 1st one.
He went to a Ortho Hip Society meeting and said research is coming back saying the curved anterior approach prostheses are not as good at distributing the force as they originally thought/hoped.
All in all I am happy